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This is not an attack. This is not perpetuating a crossfire. This is my reactionary post to what I feel was an attack, and I waited a few ays to post this so I was able to look at it objectively.

Last year, I took my friend, Frankie, to The Dark Knight on opening night. Batman is a long time favourite of mine, and I had been tracking the viral marketing campaign for TDK up until Heath Ledger's death and the entire feel of the ARG changed. Which, you know, was disappointing. But the movie was supposed to be great, and I was excited. And while sitting before the movie, Frankie called me a Fadfag. Which, you know, took me off guard. She explained that I was only ever into popular things like Transformers and Batman and Cloverfield.

I explained to her then that I had always been into Transformers and Batman, since my childhood. Verifyable fact. And in the case of Cloverfield, I found out about it at the same time as everyone else, and that doesnt even count as bieng a fad, as no one really liked it. But whatever. The issue was dropped, and I was a little hurt.

Fast-forward a full year. Due to negative factors on both our ends, Frankie and I stopped talking much. In fact, I stopped talking to 97% of the people I used to be friends with. But, in recent weeks, I had begun to tentatively reach out to her again.

I mentione being a fan of the new Star Trek movie, and then the word came up again. Fadfag. She claims that all the popular things like Iron Man and Transformers I fagged over. Despite having a prior interest in them, and maintaining an interest in them since.

I didnt go watch Iron Man because it was popular. I watched it because it looked interesting and it had RDJ, of whom I am a fan. I watched Transformers because I've loved it since I was a kid. Same with Batman, same with Superman. Cloverfield showed promise as it was an awesome premise. Sometimes things are popular because they're good.

I explained that varying factors led me to watch Star Trek, and having watched it, I enjoyed it. I've seen it multiple times, as is my custom with good movies. And then I was told that it didnt matter, because it was Star Trek. Pardon? I'm not allowed to like it simply because it's Star Trek? Oh-kay then.

Then she proceeded to tell me that she was joking and that I didnt have a sense of humour. A statement which came several minutes after I began to show frustration at being called a fadfag. I explained that she had called me that before, which made it seem like this was something she actually believed.

So, after not speaking for something like a week, Frankie posted a rant on her LJ, listing her complaints with some of her friends. Now, pause. The point of this post is not to attack or to accuse. This is simply my side of the story. I am not disputing her right to post her opinion on her own personal journal.

The section on me, in my opinion, is uncalled for. As I see it, I was insulted, and I provided my defense, and was clearly upset by a friend calling me something, and as such, I dont see how going to her LJ and insulting me a bit more was an entirely justifiable move. Her section on me is as follows;

"Another friend I called something a little... mean. "Fadfag" is what it was. Apparently I had called them that before, but I don't remember doing that and I still don't. I just remember this time because it hops onto my conscience every so often during the day (which is surprising enough for someone like me). But, you know what? I kind of do think that you're whatever the hell a 'Fadfag'. I don't much care that you've like Transformers since you were a kid - it was cool back then. But at this point its a major sell-out. I remember, when I was so happy about getting an iPod despite it being a retarded iPod, all you did was look at me and go: "SELL OUT!" and if memory serves, you went on asking why I would ever want something like that, or some such else. That hurt, too. Sorry for holding on to things, but the iPod was a big gift that could have been something more important like food, but my parents decided to save up and buy my brother and I something nice for the holidays. Before I start getting really defensive and start offending and insulting, I'm going to stop."

The first point that I have an issue with is that she identifies that what she was wasnt kind, and then continued to go on the same strain. She declares that she does, in fact, think I'm a fadfag, which is hurtful. What I dont understand is the part where she says that it doesnt matter that I liked Transformers when I was a child, as it was cool back then, but I cant like it now because it's a sell-out. How is that a logical statement? Its fine that I liked it then, but I cant like it now? Just as many people liked Transformers back in the day. And yes, I did act immaturely when she got an iPod. I believe I was 15 or 16 at the time, and yeah, I was kind of a dick. How, though, can you remember exact questions that I was asking two or three years ago, but not remember insulting me less than a year ago. I find that to be disproportionate emphasis. I cant insult her, but she can insult me. And her closing statement is a bit upsetting, as she's already offended and insulted me, and she knows this.

I'm not the only one she spoke about in this post, and some of it was kind of nasty, in my opinion. And when people reacted to it, she got upset and posted another rant. I think this is one of those times when it would have been wiser for her to post the rant privately to herself, or maybe think her actions out fully before posting it. It cant exactly be unwritten now, and a fair amount of people are upset over it.

Anyways, that's the situation, that's my side and my take.