And the sad thing is that when people mention me in their journals, my heart gives a little flutter and I read that entry over and over, especially when Im sad.
omg i totally know how it is to assign way too much importance to how much play you get in other people's journals. i did it for ages. i still do it in my mind sometimes but i've become a little better at putting it aside without verbalizing it. Not a lot better but a little. :D
maybe there should be a support community for this sorta thing. heh.
anyway, no sage advice, just i've-been-there-i-get-it and HUGS.
it's very easy to grab onto that stuff because it's quantifiable, I think. It's much harder to have relationships that actually deal with mutual support and respect and it's hard to come off the need for constant validation of your existence by the outside.
Maybe I really should think about making a closed-membership support community.
Anyway I love you and I'm very glad you're my friend and what I feel for you can't be quantified in terms of replies or @s or little red balloons.
Sage Advice: You're, uh, doing it pretty well, actually.
My IRL friends suck a little, so its nice to be able to say "See, I have friends." then refer to Twitter for proof. Because otherwise its like "See, I have friends" Then refer to my cellphone full of people complaining.
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omg i totally know how it is to assign way too much importance to how much play you get in other people's journals. i did it for ages. i still do it in my mind sometimes but i've become a little better at putting it aside without verbalizing it. Not a lot better but a little. :D
maybe there should be a support community for this sorta thing. heh.
anyway, no sage advice, just i've-been-there-i-get-it and HUGS.
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a. if other people mention me in their journals.
b. the little red number on facebook
c. @replies on twitter.
Why do I suck so bad? Dx
I usually dont verbalize it beyond the humourous facebook reference.
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Maybe I really should think about making a closed-membership support community.
Anyway I love you and I'm very glad you're my friend and what I feel for you can't be quantified in terms of replies or @s or little red balloons.
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My IRL friends suck a little, so its nice to be able to say "See, I have friends." then refer to Twitter for proof. Because otherwise its like "See, I have friends" Then refer to my cellphone full of people complaining.
Support comm ftw.